Snippet posts are collections of mostly unrelated writings that are too short or too off-topic for publication on their own. Usually I try to group the together in like subjects, but they’re all stand-alone.
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What do you want your life to look like in a year?
…or, perhaps more importantly, what do you believe your life’s going to look like in a year?
If you want to be in a different place in a year, but don’t really believe that you can do it, it won’t happen.
Changing your life for the better requires two things:
You actually have to want to change your life. If you think you’re doing just fine, thank you very much, you won’t move anywhere. You won’t improve. This is pretty obvious, but it needs to be pointed out anyway: desire is the engine that drives the change. Change is painful. It hurts. It isn’t easy to change, and most of the time you aren’t going to feel like doing it. Without the strong desire to become better, you’ll never go through the pain required.
How to get it: this isn’t too terribly hard. Talk to people who are where you want to be. Read some inspiring books. Read some more blog posts. Desire is the easy part: and the fact that you’re reading this blog proves that you already want to change your life for the better.
Desire isn’t enough. A lot of people want to change their lives, but many of them just don’t believe that they can. If you don’t think that you can do anything about your circumstances, it does’t matter how much you want things to change: they won’t.
How to get it: This one’s a lot harder. Try to get some small successes to boost your self-confidence, and impress this on your mind: people who change the world are just normal people, just like you or me. You have the ability to make this happen. You just have to act. You know what you need to do…do it.
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Whining: Imposing your negative view of the world on the people around you.
Victimhood: Totally believing your whining is justified.
Martyrdom: Seeking pity for your victimhood.
Self-pity: Whining to yourself.
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Some of the most discouraging, depressing days I’ve experienced have stemmed from not having any meaningful work to do. Humans are built for work; if we don’t have any meaningful work to do we feel useless. Entertainment is not enough to fill our souls. As much as we think it should be, it isn’t; we need more then a constant diet of entertainment and leisure. We need work. We need challenges.
I understand why people retire. It’s not to avoid work, it’s to avoid work that they hate. When people retire, they still work; they might garden, write, cook; many even miss work so much that they end up getting another job after they retire. People don’t just retire and watch television for the rest of their lives: they still feel the need to work on something that’s meaningful.
So, don’t focus on leisure as your end-all goal in life. You need something more meaningful.